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Vocabulary
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 Sympathy
Based Trauma
Sympathy based trauma is when a family or community shares
the traumatic event of a child. People respond with money, support, cards
of sympathy or the government sends in counselors. The
traumatic event may include regional, state or national
media. Often it may generate generous donations from the
public and qualify for state or federal aid. The point is,
the crisis isn't prevented but the support from others
allows the best chance for the victim to heal. Sympathy
based trauma includes house fires, natural disasters, school
shootings, car accidents, death from natural causes.
Shame-Secret
Trauma
Shame-secret trauma is a crisis or violation of a child which
the child is forced to keep secret through their development
years.
It
may be driven by blame, instilled shame, threats and backed
up by physical injury but whatever method, the child keeps
the secret. Sadly, the child is a victim of a crime but
too young to know the difference. Crimes range from
emotional and psychological abuse, to physical acts of abuse.
brutality and torture.
Families may want to cover up embarrassing facts so they
label the event a private family matter. All this does is
confuse the child. Stranger or non-kin perpetrators use
many methods to keep the child silent.
There
is period of time when a child can bring forth a secret and
heal from it quite quickly. The longer the child is forced
to keep secret without sharing, the more damage it does to
the child's ability to think, reason, retain information,
learn, and participate fully in life.
Shame-Secret
Sexual Trauma
Shame-secret sexual trauma (SSST) may be limited to grooming
and mental manipulation. SSST includes various levels
of
sexual contact such as abuse, brutality and torture.
Child
sexual contact most often has a goal to inflict various
levels of increased pain.
Incest is torture since the child is a virtual captive in
the home. No place is safe for a targeted child.
Sexual abuse, brutality and
torture of children, birth through 13 years old are felony
crimes, punishable by prison terms, no matter what the
perpetrator says. He or she will blame the child but
that is not true. It is the adults or older person
that is wrong.
The
child victims is forced to keep these vile acts secret
through fear, intimidation, shame, blame and instilling
false guilt on the child.
Addict
ad·dict (ə-dĭkt') n. (ăd'ĭkt)
To
cause to become physiologically or psychologically dependent
on a habit-forming substance: The thief was addicted to
cocaine.
To
occupy (oneself) with or involve (oneself) in something
habitually or compulsively.
Addiction
addic·tion (ə-dĭk'shən)
n.
Compulsive
physio-logical and psychological need for a habit-forming
substance: a drug used in the treatment of heroin addiction.
includes
addictive behavior such as shoplifting and compulsive
gambling
includes
anorexia and other food disorders
many
forms of addiction develop to soothe depression and anxiety
of early child abuse
includes
"ritual" addictions, such as the purchase of cigarettes,
that will cause a person to salivate in anticipation and is
every bit addictive as tobacco.
includes
people with multiple chemical addictions
includes
major addiction such as drugs to minor addiction of a single
piece of candy every night at 7 PM
Chi-ult
Noun. American 2003 (Chee-ult)
The combination of "Child" and "Adult" to form Chi-ult
A
traumatized child who physically reaches adulthood but
remains locked at the emotional age when their trauma took
place.
Emotionally
frozen in time, at the age of the traumatic incident.
Unable
to move emotionally and psychologically past their childhood
pain.
Reversible
when the secrets that hold them prisoner are revealed;
healing can then take place.
Chi-ult was created at Private Family Matter to describe in
simple terms why adults continue to manage their life at a
child's emotional level. Repeat offenders are an example of
a chi-ult. They repeat behavior that continually gets
them arrested but continue to believe that each time the
outcome will be different.
Most often, "chi-ults" are moved to
behave in an addictive pattern, to soothe their wounded
inner child.
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A person experiences unresolved trauma as a child.
They grow up and go to war which produces more
stress than the mind can manage. The mind
breaks.
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